Remaining Human In 2020 and after

©Unsplash Nathan Dumlao
©Unsplash Nathan Dumlao

I remember being extremely anxious at the beginning of this year. Even though I was never really a fan of celebrating a new year I knew nothing about, this one just felt different.

It's 8 months later and we are currently living in one hell of a year.
Most of us have been ripped from our normal lives and are faced with unnatural living conditions. We now know from personal experience that freedom is something that can be taken away in a snap.
The illusion of being secure doesn't exist in 2020 and that can be traumatic.

The fight to be right
When in crisis we look around to find the cause of the problem. And we start pointing fingers and being outraged.
We are furious at what other people do or don't do and we refuse to take the time to look at why someone does what they do.

There seems to always be two opposing sides to every conflict. And they both furiously spew hate at each other. They call each other crazy and insensitive and both aren't willing to back down. But people cannot hear you pass your anger. Therefore, it's a waste of valuable life energy.
Solutions are found by meeting in the middle. As in every relationship there needs to be compromise from both sides. But you need to care enough about the other person to be able to compromise. And that is where it's going wrong. We lack empathy and rather protect our ego's. That is why we as people will always be in conflict.
Living in times where we need each other the most, we choose to be divided.

"Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding" -Bill Bullard

You cannot afford to lose yourself
While we are looking at our leaders for guidance, we forget that we are still in control of our own lives, even though it doesn't always feel like it. We tend to make ourselves into victims of situations instead of looking within ourselves for guidance.

I remember being so angry that our leaders weren't addressing the rising mental health issues. Especially since I know out of experience what damage it could do to a person and their family. I wouldn't wish that upon anyone.
But we need to realize that we have what it takes to help ourselves. Especially since mental health issues are rising and claiming lives.

Your biggest ally in life is yourself. And if you lose yourself, your mind takes over.
Let's make one thing clear. Your mind and you are two very different entities.
Your mind is a tool that you can alter and train. It's also affected by your environment and experiences. And is primarily focused on protecting you. If you have a depression, your mind is doing the opposite.
You -meaning the soul or inner-self- is the one listening to what your mind is saying.
I will go more in depth about this another time.

I've heard so many times that people are afraid to sit in silence within themselves. They are afraid of their own minds.
And while I understand why, it is so necessary. You have to sit with your mind and hear what is said. Write down the patterns of how you're thinking.
The more conversations you have with yourself, the better you will know what to do and what decisions to make for yourself. We need to stop ignoring our instincts and go back to the basics. Back to us, without the influence of others.
Because when we can think clearly, we find the solutions we so desperately look to others for.



2020, a blessing in disguise
We spend years not being able to imagine living in a world we currently living in.
With every realization comes a choice. We can choose to be in a state of ego and feel offended that this is happening to us.
Or we can choose to be in a state of empathy and see this as a lesson. People from all over the world had to deal with lack of freedom. So now we can take this experience and have more respect and compassion for each other.

We will not escape this insecure period unscathed. We will definitely have some battle wounds. But if we have at least become more aware of ourselves while battling through this chaos, we've won.

Talk to you soon!

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    Laura (Wednesday, 28 October 2020 17:22)